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Building and Maintaining a Masculine Frame

When most men hear about a masculine frame, they think about the build. While it’s true that being physically fit will greatly improve one’s masculine frame, that’s not the whole of it. Far from it, in fact. Building a masculine frame and maintaining it is the foundation of a man. It’s the first thing people notice about you when you walk into a room.

Building, Maintaining a Masculine Frame

A strong frame will convey aspects of power, authority, confidence, and experience. It lets people know that you can’t be taken advantage of, and that you aren’t afraid to do what’s true to you and that you will speak your truth. It shows strong character and decisiveness, and is a complete embrace of all your best masculine traits.

Meanwhile, a weak masculine frame will only show notes of uncertainty, doubt, and insecurity. While there are people who don’t find fault in that, it sends a message to some that you can be taken advantage of, and that you’re very unlikely to assert yourself.

However, just because one has a weak masculine frame doesn’t mean they can’t improve. Building a masculine frame isn’t exactly the easiest thing to do, as it requires a lot of adjustments in just the way you look, speak, carry yourself, and many other factors.

The question is: what is a masculine frame exactly? What factors make up a masculine frame, and what can you improve to build the strong foundation you need?

I’ll give you the rundown on everything you need to know about building a strong masculine frame, maintaining it, and how it can help you with your confidence, being successful, and even dating.


What is a Masculine Frame?

What is a Masculine Frame

Success in multiple areas can be a hard thing for some men to achieve. Dating can always be an issue, and being unable to find respect from your peers is a problem I hear about quite often. Many men know that the solution lies in how they present themselves, but don’t know how to build that foundation for a good masculine frame. It’s not about puffing your chest out and coming in with an air of superiority. It’s far more than that (minus the superiority part; that’s just obnoxious).

If you’re going to build a masculine frame, there are four key attributes that you need to know about and stand by. They are:

  • Responsibility. If you can’t take ownership of your own actions and decisions, even if they have negative outcomes, then you’re conveying an extremely weak masculine frame. You’re showing that while you may act tough, the moment you’re hit with the reality of your own actions, you’ll crumble. People don’t respect a man like that.
  • Leadership. Men with a strong frame know how to take control. They know when they’re presence is needed and are able to take charge when no one else will. They also know how important it is to not follow others blindly and how to think for themselves.
  • Maturity. A man who acts like a child is no man at all. There are certain traits that you need to possess in order to really obtain that air of maturity that all men strive for. You need to be experienced, understanding, and able to see past your own emotions for the benefit of both yourself and others. Men are not petty, naive, or let their emotions get the better of them.
  • Drive. Drive is a man’s key to success. Sure, you might have talent, knowhow, and connections, but if you don’t have that ambition or passion for the things you do, it signals to everyone around you that you’re unlikely to be going any higher in the world. What do you want out of life? If you don’t have any, you need to reevaluate your priorities. Having a masculine frame is not just a presentation you have in front of other people; it’s also meant to better your own life, and what’s a life without ambition?


The Masculine Frames

Masculine Frames - ABstract Art

There are quite a few factors that make up a masculine frame. While many have their own ideas of what makes up a strong frame, I’ve picked out eight that I think are truly the keys to understanding who you can truly become as a person.

I will be going over the eight core frames that make up a masculine frame. They are:

  • Mental Frame
  • Social Frame
  • Physical Frame
  • Leadership Frame
  • Achievement Frame
  • Emotional Frame
  • Intellectual Frame
  • Ambition Frame

These traits aren’t something you can just fix in a moment’s notice. Learning how to reframe yourself is almost like an art, and I’ll help you learn to understand it.


Learning How to Reframe Yourself

Learning how to Build a masculine frame

It’s going to take much more than just reading an article to learn how to understand the potentials of your own mind and body.

If you read these words and just decide that squaring your shoulders a bit and speaking with a bit more force than usual is the key, then you’re sadly mistaken. That’s a facade placed over a weak frame.

Reframing is about internalizing these factors. You need to be able to sit down and truly understand what is said to you. It involves practice and truly reshaping everything you knew. You are much more than people think you are, and once you understand that and begin to internalize what you truly want out of yourself, you’ll increase your masculine energy and become exactly the man you’ve always wanted to be.

Write down these frames and reread them whenever you can. Always remind yourself of what you need in order to build a truly strong masculine frame.


Mental Frame

One of the biggest aspects about being able to build a strong frame is preparing yourself mentally.

A man with a strong mental frame truly knows how to be more masculine, he knows who he is and how he works. He knows his limits and his strengths, and he knows how to think rationally. It’s a man who is very confident in himself and his own abilities, because he knows who he is, what he wants, and the factors that influence him. He’s accepted who he is, and he knows that no matter how good he knows himself to be, he can always become better and actively strives to do so.

He’s a man who knows and understands himself with full confidence, but is also willing to learn and do better if mistakes are made.

It also involves mental maturity, as I was mentioning earlier. Being able to take responsibility is a large factor, but it’s also about being the bigger person when it’s called for. Men are not petty, naive, or easily emotional.

If you can master your own mental frame, you can master anything.


Social Frame

A man with a strong frame is able to walk into a room and let his presence tell people who he is. There’s no need for showing off or puffing your chest out — they know from the way you carry yourself and the way in which you act with others that you’re someone with a masculine edge and someone to be respected.

A man with a strong frame is easy to get along with, fair, and knows what he wants out of the people who surround him.

A man is best defined by those he surrounds himself with. If you’re friends with people who don’t respect you, you need to reevaluate the company you keep in your life. While it’s nice to be a peacekeeper, the last thing you want is to be seen as a doormat. If you feel insulted, don’t take that lying down. Put them in their place, but never stoop to their level unless you’re defending yourself or someone else.

As for romantic relationships? If you choose to pursue one, someone with a strong masculine frame is able to be the stability and source of passion their his partner needs. You need to know how to handle rejection in a healthy way as well.

Just remember that you as an individual should be no different than the you that your friends and partner know. You aren’t ashamed of yourself, including your flaws, and it’s a confidence that people can really come to admire.


Physical Frame

One of the essential ways of building a masculine frame — and one many men aren’t ready to commit to — is staying fit.

While a good chunk of staying fit is to look good, that’s not all of it. It’s all about testosterone and self-discipline.

A fit body, especially one that exercises regularly, produces far more testosterone than someone who is out of shape and overweight. Testosterone is the male sex hormone, which provides plenty of benefits to the male body. This includes the production of facial hair, boosting energy, regulating mood, and increasing libido, everything that can help you look more masculine. When you take care of your body, your body takes care of you. Not only do you look good, but you feel good.

Secondly, there’s self-discipline. It can be agonizingly easy to just eat out everyday and skip working out. Overcoming your urges to get too comfortable can be difficult, and taking care of your body is easier said than done. However, it shows a level of dedication and self-discipline that you don’t see all too often nowadays. Not to mention the message it sends to others. You can tell a lot about a person just from how they take care of themselves, and someone with a fit physique tends to be more responsible and a good leader. Learn how to develop discipline, it’s a key in this process.


Leadership Frame

Someone with a masculine frame should always walk with the mindset of a leader. However, now everyone knows what it really means to lead. It’s not about talking the loudest or being the most authoritative. It’s about giving direction when it’s needed, speaking up when no one else will, and even doing the hard things that some are too afraid to do.

A leader commands respect from his very presence. He does not allow himself to be insulted or talked down to, and he knows himself and his capabilities.

Leadership can also be found in romantic relationships. While you should always go in with the mindset that you and your partner are equals, never be afraid to lead if that’s what they need. Be the safety and rock they may need.

Being a leader is also about knowing when to step up and when to step down. There’s a difference between being a leader and being controlling, and if it so happens that you’re trying to lead the group at the expense of listening to those who trust you, you’re only doing harm. Learn when to lead, when to work in tandem, and when to sit back and let someone else speak.


Achievement Frame

Many people question what I mean by this. Well, if you could have a resume about your life, what you would put on it is your achievements.

Now, I’m not saying you need to climb Mount Everest or anything. Many achievements can seem small in the grand scheme of things, but they say a lot about someone and their experience in the rollercoaster of life. Things like having a stable job, being in a happy relationship, knowing how to cook for you and your partner every day, and being disciplined enough to keep your home consistently clean may not seem all that great. To those that think this, I want you to imagine someone who doesn’t have all those traits.

Not as impressive, eh? Success isn’t about traveling the world or having millions; it’s about being the best you can be.


Emotional Frame

Ever heard of Stoicism? It’s a philosophy that I follow closely. It’s about stability, and knowing that it’s important to be the best you can be, for any day can be our last.

It focuses greatly on emotion, too. To be a stoic is to have complete control over your emotions. You don’t let your anger take control, and when there is devastation, you are the person people can rely on. This doesn’t mean a complete suppression of your emotions, as that just isn’t healthy. It means that you are in touch with your own emotions, know how to calm yourself, and can handle stress without being too emotional.

If you’re someone who gets upset easily or doesn’t know how to calm down when angry, that’s something you need to work on. A masculine frame requires a level of both maturity and understanding of your own emotions.


Intellectual Frame

Intellect is one of the best features a man can have. Now, this doesn’t mean they have to go through four years of college or more and earn a degree. It’s about having a good, sensible head on your shoulders. It’s about knowing who to trust and how to take care of yourself, your home, and the people around you.

A man does not let themselves get trapped in an echo chamber of mainstream media and internet shenanigans. He sees common sense, is always willing to dig deeper, and knows when to walk away from nonsense. Bottom line: he thinks for himself, and no one else should do the same.

A man with a masculine frame also knows how to learn. He learns from his mistakes and is willing to learn from others as well. He is able to admit when he is wrong and understand the truth behind the matter, whether it be a factual mistake or a life lesson.

Lastly, a man is willing to teach. Knowing more than another person is not a reason to flex any sort of superiority or insult. To teach others is a gift, it’s another leadership quality that many men should internalize.


Ambition Frame

It’s ambition that truly makes a man who he is. A man with drive may not have the world in his hands now, but with enough ambition and the willingness to pursue it, he can have nothing short of it.

To have ambition is to set a vision of your future. It’s to ask yourself what you want for your own life, and to set goals for yourself to reach that ultimate dream. Of course, a man with a good sense of ambition is able to plan it out for themselves, and while they can want everything and then some, someone with a masculine frame is able to be realistic and understand what it takes to get there.

A masculine frame doesn’t require ambition to be something grandiose. A desire for something as simple as a high-paying job or marriage are things that are both attainable and something many can be envious of. Ambition is about doing what’s best for you and your happiness.

Finally, you need drive. Ambition without drive is like a car without any gas. A man who is truly masculine is able to maintain the motivation they need to tackle their ambitions and truly be at his peak.